As humans, we are wired to connect. When a relationship is going well, we feel that we can turn toward our partner and express ourselves fully and freely. In-response, our partner will welcome us, and accept us. However, when our relationships are rocky, everything else tempt to feels gray.

Attachment is an important component because it involves a person’s ability to trust; initially their caregivers and eventually their partners, and friends. Healthy attachment in relationships creates a comforting feeling of safe haven and stability. Fulfilling relationships have inherent questions that healthy attachment can answer, such as: “Are you there for me?”; “Will you respond when I need you?”; and “Can I depend on you?”. Statistically, 50-70% of couples identify relationship distress originating from sexual problems. In a long-term relationship, sex acts as a form of attachment for couples, helping them feel connected.

Emotionally Focused Therapy is an effective form of individual and couples counseling because it goes beyond our thought processing, EFT addresses the role that attachment plays in our relationships including the relationship within oneself.

As an Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT), I listen to emotional messages. I work in the here-and-now moments in therapy sessions to collaboratively trace emotional responses that may influence the current pain and struggles. My focus is to help my clients connect with their truest self to develop a self-affirming relationship that is growth-oriented.